Dear Flist

[moonshayde]

Taking a page out of astrogirl2's book...

I've actually wanted to do this for a while, but now that astrogirl2 has done it, I can be a lemming instead :)

While my flist is not ginormous, it's pretty big and I don't get to talk to half as many people as I would like. Most of the time it's because I'm really bogged down with RL stuff, but sometimes it's because I don't know you very well and I'm a little too shy to just start posting whatever all over your space.

I also wonder, like astrogirl2 whether people are just here for fic or basic fandom and don't want to move into a "friendship" or if there are people on my flist that really would like to chat? If you're just here for fic, that's cool. I have no problem with that, though I don't write as much as I used to. But if you're looking for more and I haven't been talking to you much, I'd love to know. Actually, I enjoy meeting new people and talking about a range of things, so if I know you're open to various discussions, then I'll be more inclined to do so if I know that I'm not bugging you.

Also, the nature of fandoms are ever changing. We move onto to new stuff, we hold onto the old, and we develop new opinions and interests. Maybe some of you are here because you feel bad about defriending. Maybe some of you don't know me very well and are too shy. Maybe some of you are new and we haven't really had a chance to talk yet.

I ask because I go through the same thing. Sometimes I wonder if I should comment or not. And there are some people I've drifted away from fannishly. I wonder if people would feel weird if I started engaging them in a more personal or friendly manner or if people would rather keep it "strictly professional." And if I feel that way, I'm sure others do as well.

So in this post, please feel free to reintroduce yourself. Feel free to tell me to please go away or to talk more or to post on your LJs. Really. Or if you feel the need to take me off your flist, no hard feelings. (Unless I've like known you for a long time and we've talked alot, then *sniff* but I know people change.)

Or just go about your own business.

I just like to talk is all ;)

Comments

[mysticalweather.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah!? ...well...

*lets Darth do the talking*



(You know, I wonder how long you could actually have a conversation based solely on icons...)

~Misty

[rigel-7.livejournal.com]

*stalks you some more*

:D

And I'm on AIM as well, though my timezone sucketh mightily. There's a 12 hour difference between me and the east coast of America. I'm talking to you from the fuuuuuuture!

[autumndandelion.livejournal.com]

See, you understand how fandom works. The vast majority of people I know in real life don't get it, label me as weird, and go on with their lives.

I am VERY much enjoying my Ninja Turtles! It's what's getting me through work and general life stress at the moment. Leonardo is also my favourite.

= D

[destina.livejournal.com]

I haven't been chatty the last several months because...well, RL stuff. But I'm still around, still reading. :)

[crayonbreakygal.livejournal.com]

I like your Star Wars icon!

I know I've read your most recent stuff, I just can't remember if I commented. Sometimes I don't when I'm in a hurry. Gah! I wish I coudl remember. Just know that I always read what you have to say, whether it is fic or RL.

*hugs*

[odakota-rose.livejournal.com]

There be a list ahead:

1) I'm Ren *waves*
2) coffee addict (see icon)
3) fandom zombie. No really, it's true.

life:
mostly awesome, could do with more chocolate though...

regarding the f-list:
I like getting to know the people on my list, one can never have too many friends.

why I felt the need to make a list for this:
The world may never know. It's one of the great mysteries of life, rather like tootsie pops and the number 42.
(Honestly, it's probably because I'm a wee bit sleepy and trying not to go completely off the random-meter. *g*)

[luzitasg1.livejournal.com]

I'm kind of a lurker but am happy you're on my flist. Your fandom posts are always stimulating, and you seem like a very sweet person. I felt for you in your recent travails and I'm glad you're sounding in better spirits. I'm not up on chat much, but I always welcome comments to my journal, which is mostly fandom/writing-related but I've started posting more personal things.

Since I'm pretty new to fandom, and hadn't done any blogging before joining LJ about 6 months ago, I'm still feeling my way around. My original interest was fan fiction, but I must guiltily admit I'm not reading much of it, and I haven't even been writing much of it (though I keep trying to get back into the swing of things). What I seem to do most on LJ is read Stargate meta and collect Stargate icons. But I'm starting to feel a more personal connection to some people.

[rdamel.livejournal.com]

I can't recall how I first noticed your lj--I probably read a comment of yours on surrealis' journal and followed it back. From there, I sampled your stories and enjoyed your fannish thoughts, and then when I recently got my own lj (just so I could comment on other people's lj's without feeling so much like an anonymous intruder), I asked if I could friend you and you said yes. I am much older than most of the people here and so I feel a little out of place at times, but I'm mostly interested in SG1 (original team) thoughts and stories--and RDA, as Jack is my favorite of all the team, much as I love them all, not to mention Hammond, Doc Frasier and Siler, etc.

So I just have fun dipping into this fandom world--I doubt you'll ever find anything interesting at my lj--I'm a reader, not a writer.

Melissa M.

[chickadilly.livejournal.com]

Hi!

I'm Lea - I'm pretty new to your friends list and you're pretty new to mine. I have a similar problem in that I have a fairly big flist and sometimes don't have the time to keep up ... and I wonder if people feel the same about me or not? Personally I welcome any and all comments - I love discussion so anytime you feel like commenting go for it.

I get what you mean though - sometimes I'll read a great post and think "I need to comment' but am in a hurry and book mark it for later only by the time I get back to it I feel like it's too late to comment so I don't. And sometimes I'll read a really interesting discussion but won't have anything to add and just end up lurking. I always feel weird about that - like I should leave a comment but never know what to say.

Oh, I forgot to add I found you on the Smallville friending meme a while back ... :)

[aelfgyfu_mead]

I read your SG-1 fic (mostly the gen) long before I got into LJ and found you had a journal. I friended you because of fandom, but I think we have a lot more in common than that. I'm an academic (a medievalist); you may well remember, but I'll take advantage of this opportunity to reintroduce myself. I read all your entries and hope you keep posting about life and non-fandom related things; as you say, fandoms come and go, but friendships can remain.

I'm happy to have you comment on any of my entries you feel like, and obviously I comment whenever I want on yours (if I'm not too terribly out of date, and sometimes even when I am).

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

Aw, Pepper. She is awesome. :)

Sorry I haven't been all too meta-y or anything lately, but it doesn't mean I love the show any less :)

Thanks!

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

It's good that life is mostly awesome, but I agree that chocolate makes it better ;)

Though, now I'm going to have the owl from the tootsie pop commericals in my head now, thank you very much.

Thanks for giving me the run down! ;)

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

Yay Star Wars!!!

Yeah, I'm pretty much the same way. I always mean to go back when I don't comment but it doesn't seem to happen LOL

But I always read or at least skim people's posts (if I am in a huge hurry).

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

RL will do that. :)

I come and go myself. I always read, even if sometimes I forget or don't have time to comment.

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

You future people are creepy, I tell you. You and your future knowing ways...

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

Aw. Timing issues do suck. I had the weirdest hours there for a while and felt out of sync with everything. And you're the sterotypial bartender you say? I find that interesting.

Fandom is fun. I know I'm always open to a mix of both fandom and personal :)

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

You're welcome to comment on my LJ any time, of course. Perhaps I'm wrong, but I've always considered you a beyond-fandom friend.

You're wrong! WRONG!

Nah. I've known you for quite a long time and we've had some pretty in depth conversations, if I remember correctly.

As for fic, no one is ever obligated to read my fic anyway, so it's not like I expect it from people. Besides, I'm not really writing much fanfic right now anyway. I still want to finish soem outstanding SG-1 stories, though it looks like I won't as more time passes and I have a couple of Superman and SPN related ones I want to do, but may never get to. I'm just too busy and know I have to focus on my own stuff if I am going to ever make it.

And what? You write a comment and then don't post it? What's that about? I just say post it. Not because I am comment hungry, but because how am I supposed to know what you want to say if you don't say it? Come and share! I don't bite. ;)

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

Thank you. :) I'm hoping things get better soon. it's been a tough couple of years.

I think it takes a while to get used to blogging and LJ. Even now, after a few years here, I make posts like this one because I'm not 100% comfortable and want to reach out to people I know or what to get to know. It can be weird and awkward sometimes and it's good to know what people consider netiquette on their journals.

You're not alone in the guilt dept. I too find that I haven't been reading very much, if at all, and I barely write it. RL has been crazy. I'm mostly focused on people's thoughts, meta, and opnions right now, ans of course writing as a topic is aomething I can never deny. That topic transcends everything for me :)

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

Thanks for letting me know. Btw, it doesn't mean I like you any less, but if I know you don't post very often, I won't be wondering if I've done something wrong to offend or wonder where you are.

You are free to jump into any discussion here that you like, whether it is with me or someone else. I never mind.

I know that I've been very fannish about SG-1 much lately, but it doesn't mean I like it any less. And I still have some Macgyver stuff to get through as well.

Btw, I love that icon. I think it needs a sequel - built to last :)

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

I understand. I do this a lot myself. I will read something very interesting and just digest it; I don't really have anything to add to the conversation. Other times, I may talk up a storm and comment several times. It depends a lot on mood too. Sometimes I feel like commenting and other times I just want to read.

It gets hadrer the bigger your flist gets. I enjoy knowing people from a variety of backgrounds and interests. I just don't always express it. :)

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

I wish I was an academic *sigh*

I attempted to get into some PhD programs last year but I was rejected. I jump in between history and anthropology, so our interests tend to intersect at times. And even though I was rejected and it hurt like hell, I will eventually try again. For now, I'm attemtping middle school education of history. I do know how parts of graduate and academia work, however, from my graduate days to get my MA in Anthropology.

(I love history if you couldn't tell.)

I'm making it my goal to try to comment more and as you know you're always welcome to jump in on any discussion :)

[odakota-rose.livejournal.com]

It's my highly biased opinion that chocolate makes everything better ^^
Ahh, no problem *smirk*
:D

[rdamel.livejournal.com]

Thanks, the icon is thanks to Lilferret--I'm barely able to function on a computer, but luckily others are much better and I can borrow. I like your idea for a follow up for that icon--maybe someone can do one like that!

I have been putting in comments occasionaly even when I had to do it as "anonymous" (though I always signed them Melissa M.) for some time, but I feel less of an intruder now that I have an lj of my own. It's just never going to have anything interesting there--I dislike typing so I only do it where someone else has written something interesting and I want to respond in some way. (For instance, Pepper had a great many comments from me for her Jack Spam day--I love Jack and kept thinking of a good bit, then another good bit, etc., till her comment number for Jack was over 100. And I thought of another one today, that I'm going to go add, too. I can't help myself where Jack is concerned.

I might add that I enjoy history, too (having read the comments that come after this one). It was my major in college--I graduated 35 years ago, and after I had to quit my job as librarian 5 years ago, I started volunteering at our local county museum, working with the man who was my Missouri History professor way back when. He was pleased to get a former student in to help him out.

Did you ever get all the MacGyvers watched? I was looking thru some of your older posts last night, and looked at the MacGyver tags. I had never seen RDA in anything, ever, until I watched SG1 for the first time 3 years ago. Sometime that summer I started watching MacGyver on Spike and TV Land and had seen all of them by the time they took them off the air. I've since bought all of them on dvd (not counting the movies), so I watch them some, though I usually rewatch a Stargate episode most nights. Sometimes a Mac, though. When I read your thoughts as you were first watching it, I thought, "Yes! He was cool that first season." He's always worth watching, but I have a special fondness for the first season, I think, particularly the pilot. Mind you, I didn't care for Golden Triangle all that much, but I did absolutely love that little bit at the beginning when he's sunning himself on the beach--one of his white socks in the background. Such a cutie! And of course the fact that the actor is right around my age makes me feel an extra bond with him, I think.

Melissa M.

[rdamel.livejournal.com]

P.S. When you said you had "Macgyver stuff to get thru" I didn't know if you meant more of the dvds of the shows, or maybe fanfiction. (I've read only a little bit of Mac fan fiction--I love the ones Pepper has put out.)

Meliss M.

[martyfan.livejournal.com]

I don't know if it's just something about me or what, but a lot of times (both online and in face-to-face interactions), people seem to want to pour out their troubles to me. I try not to give tons of advice on situations that are none of my business, or that I don't have lots of background knowledge on, but apparently being a listening ear is good enough for some people.

I've actually found internet relationships easier to keep up than RL friendships, probably because of the timing thing. One of my best friends, the one I've known the longest, actually lives in Australia, and we get to see each other often because of my wacky sleep cycle. Plus with internet stuff, you can email someone any time of the day and they'll get back to you whenever they're around. So that's nifty.

Fandom certainly is fun, so long as there are no ship wars or wank going on nearby. ;)