Dear Flist

[moonshayde]

Taking a page out of astrogirl2's book...

I've actually wanted to do this for a while, but now that astrogirl2 has done it, I can be a lemming instead :)

While my flist is not ginormous, it's pretty big and I don't get to talk to half as many people as I would like. Most of the time it's because I'm really bogged down with RL stuff, but sometimes it's because I don't know you very well and I'm a little too shy to just start posting whatever all over your space.

I also wonder, like astrogirl2 whether people are just here for fic or basic fandom and don't want to move into a "friendship" or if there are people on my flist that really would like to chat? If you're just here for fic, that's cool. I have no problem with that, though I don't write as much as I used to. But if you're looking for more and I haven't been talking to you much, I'd love to know. Actually, I enjoy meeting new people and talking about a range of things, so if I know you're open to various discussions, then I'll be more inclined to do so if I know that I'm not bugging you.

Also, the nature of fandoms are ever changing. We move onto to new stuff, we hold onto the old, and we develop new opinions and interests. Maybe some of you are here because you feel bad about defriending. Maybe some of you don't know me very well and are too shy. Maybe some of you are new and we haven't really had a chance to talk yet.

I ask because I go through the same thing. Sometimes I wonder if I should comment or not. And there are some people I've drifted away from fannishly. I wonder if people would feel weird if I started engaging them in a more personal or friendly manner or if people would rather keep it "strictly professional." And if I feel that way, I'm sure others do as well.

So in this post, please feel free to reintroduce yourself. Feel free to tell me to please go away or to talk more or to post on your LJs. Really. Or if you feel the need to take me off your flist, no hard feelings. (Unless I've like known you for a long time and we've talked alot, then *sniff* but I know people change.)

Or just go about your own business.

I just like to talk is all ;)

Comments

[martyfan.livejournal.com]

I started off being in this for the fic, but I also enjoy fannish discussions and the occasional RL-issues conversations. I find myself playing the stereotypical bartender to a lot of people, for some reason. But yes, fandom is fun and now I'm rambling. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I like to talk too, even though I'm not around during "normal" hours a lot. (I'm sleeping or at work most of the day, and then up most of the night. It gets lonely sometimes.)

[moonshayde.livejournal.com]

Aw. Timing issues do suck. I had the weirdest hours there for a while and felt out of sync with everything. And you're the sterotypial bartender you say? I find that interesting.

Fandom is fun. I know I'm always open to a mix of both fandom and personal :)

[martyfan.livejournal.com]

I don't know if it's just something about me or what, but a lot of times (both online and in face-to-face interactions), people seem to want to pour out their troubles to me. I try not to give tons of advice on situations that are none of my business, or that I don't have lots of background knowledge on, but apparently being a listening ear is good enough for some people.

I've actually found internet relationships easier to keep up than RL friendships, probably because of the timing thing. One of my best friends, the one I've known the longest, actually lives in Australia, and we get to see each other often because of my wacky sleep cycle. Plus with internet stuff, you can email someone any time of the day and they'll get back to you whenever they're around. So that's nifty.

Fandom certainly is fun, so long as there are no ship wars or wank going on nearby. ;)