Reached the Limit

[moonshayde]

Yes, I officially reached my limit. Maybe I shouldn't post this or make any decisions when I'm having a bad day, but it doesn't seem to be stopping me!

I always bend my schedule around for everyone else. I'm a people pleaser and I like to be accommodating. Unfortunately, this often leads to people just assuming I am there at their every whim and it results in me becoming frustrated and resentful.

No more. I am going to plan my day and if it clashes with someone else's plans, then they are going to have to shuffle their schedule. Maybe that is selfish of me, but at this point I need to take some of my time back. I'm sleeping awful, eating awful, and miserable all the time. Besides, I'm called selfish no matter what I do, so who cares right?

If people really do care, they'll be considerate enough to work with me instead of assuming I'm always available. If not...I guess I'll find out.

Comments

[captain-tiv.livejournal.com]

Hon, that is NOT being selfish.

[foxy11814.livejournal.com]

You're absolutely right! Look out for what's best for you, especially since that's what everyone else seems to be doing!

[ldyanne.livejournal.com]

That's a hard thing to do, to learn to take care of yourself. It took me many years to learn this lesson myself. Now I try to make it clear when I commit to someone or something that there's a limit, that I have to be able to take care of myself, too.

[gategrrl.livejournal.com]

What they all said. It's called setting boundries.

[jedishadowolf.livejournal.com]

It isn't being selfish to make plans for yourself and not change them simply because they don't fit with someone else's plans. All it means is you aren't a mind reader and have things you'd like to do. Everyone is entitled to that. I hate that you're feeling miserable so I hope you do take the day to do what you want and have time to relax a little bit.

[aizjanika.livejournal.com]

{{{hugs}}}

You're right. I do the same thing. And no matter how much I try to accommodate everyone else, if things don't work out exactly right, somehow it's my fault, and I am selfish and deliberately trying to make things difficult for everyone else.

I do wonder if it's a woman thing, especially in my case. I think I was just taught from birth to be polite, to be accommodating, to be helpful, etc. It backfires in real life, though, because people treat me like a doormat (and I refer to my own family here, as well as others).

{{{more hugs}}} I greatly admire you for trying to take back your time. That's not bitchy at all.