No, I agree. I've always agrued that fandom is the perfect place to explore possibilities. I have no issue with that at all. I play all over the place. I support gen, het, and slash :)

I was talking more about the phenomenon of where expecations of the show become focused on a romantic pairing where the obvious theme of the show is something else. Why disgard everything else about the show for that pairing? I don't mean in an icon or a fanvid or a fanfic, I mean for the show or book itself.

That fascinates me :)